Guilt: The Silent Profit Killer

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Clearing shame and guilt is essential for business growth because unresolved emotional baggage prevents you from receiving what you're truly worth. When you don't value yourself, you create patterns of giving too much while expecting others to value you, leading to resentment and stalled progress.

• All good business relationships are built on sustainable fair exchange - a balance of giving and taking
• Shame and guilt create an assumption that we've caused more negatives than positives in situations
• Addressing the internal game is as important as having the right business strategy
• Constant self-criticism makes it impossible to receive what you're worth
• Recognizing both sides of past events helps clear emotional baggage
• Self-sabotage patterns often stem from feeling undeserving of success
• Relationships (business or personal) require both parties to value themselves

If you want to join the Fitmind Academy group coaching program for like-minded business people focused on improving mindset, health, fitness and growth, reach out via email at inquiries@shemusfox.com.

Chapters

• 0:00 Shame Destroys Business Growth
• 1:04 Clearing Baggage for Success
• 1:42 Fair Exchange and Self-Worth
• 2:42 Overcoming Guilt and Shame
• 3:49 Value Yourself to Grow
• 6:00 Fitmind Academy Introduction

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Shame and guilt will destroy your business. How, why so? On Monday night, inside the Fitmind Academy, I guided our group through how to clear shame and guilt and why it's so important in order to do that. In order for you to grow in whatever shape or form, if you want to grow in your business, if you want to grow in a relationship, if you want to grow financially, etc. Then it's important that we clear baggage that a lot of the times is holding us back and also holding us down. So at the minute, we're going through a process of getting them clear on their purpose, their mission, their vision and what they want to create. And in order to create that, a lot of the times, in order for you to receive what it is that you feel you deserve or want to accept, then we have to clear a lot of the time stuff that's maybe holding you back, baggage that's holding you back. So I guided the members through an exercise that showed them how to clear baggage and shame and guilt, and we've all done things in our life that we don't feel proud of, but letting those feelings linger probably isn't wise, and I explained that. If you want to have a business, if you want to build a business, then you have to be able to receive what you're worth, and if you don't think that you deserve what you are receiving, then you're not going to hold on to it. So it's wise to clear whatever it is that you feel guilt or shame around, because all good business, all good growth, occurs when there's sustainable, fair exchange, and sustainable fair exchange is a balance of opposites. It's a balance of give and take.

Speaker 1: 1:25

But if we are beating ourselves up, if we're feeling a lot of shame and guilt, if we don't feel the value within ourselves, what do we do? We become overly altruistic, which is giving, giving, giving, giving, and a lot of the times when we are doing that giving of ourselves we are then having an expectation that other people should be valuing us more. It doesn't happen. We create resentment, they create resentment and then we start to beat ourselves up even more and we create resentment for that other person also. But in reality, you should be valuing yourself more and when you start to value yourself more, you build your level of deserving up, you build yourself back up in the fair exchange and you create balance for yourself. So if you're constantly beating yourself up, then you're going to struggle to receive and you'll probably accept less than what you are worth. So a lot of the times in business it's not just about the strategy, it's about the internal game. And if you're not addressing the internal game and then a lot of the times what you'll find is you're going to keep hitting your head off the same glass ceiling without ever breaking through. Or maybe you do start to progress, but then you start to see that there's patterns of sabotage and sitting back and maybe wasting and trying to get rid of things that you've actually went and worked hard for, and a lot of the times that can be because of what's going on inside.

Speaker 1: 2:42

So guilt and shame. Guilt and shame a lot of times is an assumption. It's an assumption in our mind that we have caused more negatives than positives, drawbacks than benefits to whoever it is or whatever it is that we feel shame and guilt around. Now, if we understand universal principles and laws and we understand that there's no such thing as a one-sided event, then there has to be an opposite side to whatever it is that we feel guilt or shame around and part thing as a one-sided event. Then there has to be an opposite side to whatever it is that we feel guilt or shame around, and part of the process that I guide people through is to go and start to look for that. Go and start to see the other side that you were ignoring. Go and start to see the part that you've probably put in the unconscious mind and bring a conscious so that you can see exactly what acts they went on instead of what you think went on. And when we do that, we can start to build ourselves back up again. And a prime example of that is one of our members reached out to me on WhatsApp the next day and he said that exercise was absolutely fantastic. He says I went straight to work, put it into practice, he says, and I started to work on myself, he says, and felt an immediate shift. He started to bring himself back up in the balance again. He started to feel better about himself again by starting to clear a lot of those old emotions and baggage that we, a lot of the times, should not be holding on to. In fact, I would say, not a lot of the times we shouldn't be holding on to.

Speaker 1: 3:52

So if we want to grow in our lives, if we want to grow in our business, every relationship in business or an intimate relationship is built on sustainable, fair exchange. It's built on you being exchange. It's built on you being yourself. It's built on you having that value and self-worth within yourself, because nobody in a relationship wants to be in a relationship with somebody that doesn't value themselves. They want somebody who looks after themselves, they want somebody who value themselves. They want to be in a relationship where they feel that there's an equal balance of give and take.

Speaker 1: 4:23

If someone's constantly giving, giving, giving, giving, giving or giving, giving, giving or taking, taking, taking, taking, taking, you can become overly altruistic if you're giving, overly narcissistic if you're taking, and that doesn't create growth. It doesn't create sustainable, fair exchange long term. You see that in relationships. You also see that in business. So, as we deep dive into a lot of those concepts on Monday, we were able to start to look at things differently and given an exercise that you can take every single time and be able to work on some of the stuff that you need to get rid of, because a lot of the times, what you'll find is, if you don't do those things, you'll find that you might be trying to build a business, you might be spending more instead of reinvesting more, you might be accepting less than what you're actually worth because you're not valuing yourself properly. And if you start to work on yourself and your internal game, you can bring yourself back up on the balance again and create growth for yourself.

Speaker 1: 5:19

So I just wanted to bring that topic to you in this short podcast because it's invaluable and a lot of the times, if we look at the patterns that we have in our lives, a lot of those patterns are either conscious patterns or unconscious patterns and unless we bring the unconscious conscious and see what it is that's actually creating those patterns for us, a lot of the times we just keep repeating those processes.

Speaker 1: 5:42

So if you want to grow in your business, if you want to grow in relationships, if you want to grow in any area of life, it's important that you value yourself. In any area of life, it's important that you value yourself and it's also important that you clear stuff that could be bringing that level of your deserving of success down so that you can move on to balance again and move forward in the growth. Okay, guys, if that's of interest to you in terms of the Footmind Academy, the group coaching program, then reach out to me, send me a message or send me an email. Inquiries at shemusfoxcom. If you want to grow with a group of men of like-minded people, other business people, other people who are career driven, improving their mindset, improving their health, improving their fitness and improving how to grow in their lives, then send me a message and I would love to have a conversation. Okay, guys, speak soon. See you in the next one.